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Breaking Down the Barriers: Talking About Sexual Health in Your Relationship

Introduction: Why is Talking About Sexual Health Important?

In our society, sexual health is often a taboo subject, shrouded in mystery and misunderstanding. But why is this so, especially when sexual health is such a fundamental aspect of our overall well-being and relationships? Let’s delve into this further.

The Stigma Surrounding Sexual Health Conversations

Many people struggle to talk openly about sexual health due to societal norms, personal discomfort, or fear of judgment. However, this silence often leads to misinformation, misunderstandings, and unnecessary fear.

Benefits of Discussing Sexual Health

Open discussions about sexual health can lead to improved sexual satisfaction, enhanced intimacy, and better health outcomes. Not only does it educate both partners, but it also fosters trust, respect, and mutual understanding.

Open Up: How to Initiate the Conversation

So, how does one begin discussing such a personal and sensitive topic?

Choosing the Right Moment

Timing is crucial. Choose a moment when both of you are relaxed and free from distractions. This isn’t a conversation to rush through or have in passing.

Setting the Tone

Approach the topic with sensitivity and understanding. Make it clear that the discussion is a safe space where judgment and criticism have no place.

Being Honest and Open

Honesty is the best policy. Be open about your concerns, desires, and expectations. This conversation is about both of you, so encourage your partner to share their thoughts as well.

Discussing Sexual Health: Topics to Cover

Now that you’ve initiated the conversation, what should you talk about?

Personal Sexual History

Understanding each other’s sexual history is important. This includes past relationships, experiences, and any relevant health information.

Safe Sex and Contraception

Discuss your beliefs and expectations regarding safe sex and contraception. It’s essential to be on the same page to protect your sexual health and plan your future together.

Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)

An open dialogue about STDs can help protect both partners. Talk about your testing history, any current or past infections, and the importance of regular testing.

Sexual Preferences and Boundaries

Understanding each other’s preferences and boundaries can enhance intimacy and ensure a respectful, fulfilling sexual relationship. Be open about your desires and listen attentively to your partner’s as well.

Dealing With Resistance or Discomfort

What if the conversation doesn’t go smoothly?

Responding to Negative Reactions

Not everyone is comfortable discussing sexual health immediately. If your partner reacts negatively, be patient. Reassure them of your intentions and give them time to process the information.

Ensuring Mutual Comfort and Understanding

Mutual comfort and understanding are paramount. Be sensitive to your partner’s feelings and create an environment that encourages open communication.

Conclusion: The Power of Communication in Sexual Health

Breaking down the barriers to discuss sexual health in a relationship can be challenging, but the benefits are immense. It fosters better understanding, trust, and intimacy. And ultimately, it enhances the health and quality of your relationship.


What if my partner refuses to discuss sexual health?

If your partner is unwilling to discuss sexual health, it’s essential to express your concern and its importance without pressuring them. Provide them with resources to educate themselves, and reassure them that the conversation is a safe space.

How often should we discuss sexual health?

Sexual health should be an ongoing conversation, especially if your relationship dynamics, desires, or health status changes.

What if we have differing views on important sexual health topics?

It’s normal to have differing views. The goal is to understand each other, respect each other’s boundaries, and find a compromise that ensures both partners’ health and satisfaction.

Is it okay to seek professional help for our sexual health discussions?

Absolutely. Sex therapists or counselors can provide guidance and help facilitate these discussions in a comfortable, unbiased manner.

How can I ensure that my discussions about sexual health are effective?

Be open, honest, respectful, and understanding. Make it clear that the discussion is a safe space, and ensure both partners are given an equal opportunity to express their views.

Angelica Jackson a therapist at Denver Couples and Sex Therapy

I’m Angelica Jackson, From Denver Couples & Sex Therapy PLLC. I graduated with a Master’s in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, and I am a Licensed Professional Counselor Candidate also involved at the local and national level of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. I have dedicated myself to building a practice committed to providing extraordinary, expert client care.